I’ve addressed parenting books before, but I was doubtful then of my no-parenting-books streak. Now, notsomuch.
I still haven’t read a single parenting book. I’ve read books about parents and books about kids. When yo break it down, every single book I’ve read has parents and children. Wild, right? Not only is the publishing world bursting at the seams with family members, our very own real world has parents and children everywhere.
Deep thoughts, people.
So, no, I haven’t read a how-to-parent book yet. And while 2 years is, by no stretch of the imagination, a lengthly trip down Parenting Experience Avenue, I have no intention to ever read a parenting book.
Why? Reading one book by one author (or even a couple authors who collaborate their wisdom) is a time investment. Chances are, only bits of that one book might be applicable, and because I can’t actually see their advice in motion, how do I know if I’m doing it right, or if it’s not right for us or if it just plain-old doesn’t work?
For 2 successful years, I’ve sought parenting advice from people I know. More specifically, I seek advice from people whose parenting skills I’ve observed or whose fruits of labor I’ve witnessed and by which am impressed. I watch family and friends. I gather tidbits from strangers and imaginary characters. I’m piecing together my own how-to manual fit only for my head and my family and am creating a ragged quilt that won’t be able to be wholly passed on to any one person because of the rough edges, holes, rips, revisions and shimmery, hard-to-distinguish parts.
Books make me a better parent, but that’s only because my books allow me to escape daily life. I need that escape more than I need a stranger’s advice about my family who might be just a little bit like theirs – if I do it right.
Happy consignment sale seasons, friends! My local mothers of multiples club already held our spring sale, but there are sales happening nearly every weekend now for spring and summer clothing. I’ve always been a power shopper and hunger for deals, so consignment shopping is practically a hobby with a bonus of necessity with three quickly growing children.
I started attending the big sales once Toby, Eleanor and Callista were near the age of outgrowing all those gifts and hand-me-downs we received before they were born. If you’re blessed like us, the need to purchase our own clothing for them didin’t happen until they were in 9 months sizes.
For $179 at my first sale, I bought: 1 Step2 Toddle Tune; 1 Fisher-Price Laugh & Learn Home; 1 Playskool Poppin Pals toy; 1 FP Little People Ark; 1 FP Little People Airplane; 1 Munchkin duck toy/faucet cover; 1 Crayola tub crayon set; 1 FP Corn Popper push toy; 1 wooden puzzle; 1 board book; 4 DVDs; 1 CD audiobook; 1 Stearns Life Jacket; 6 swimsuits (4 2-piece shirt/shorts sets, 2 1-piece suits); 37 shirts/dresses; and 26 skirts/pants/shorts (clothes are all Carter’s, Children’s Place, Old Navy, Gap or Gymboree)
My second sale season, a fall/winter sale, yielded 64 clothing items, 2 frog potties, 1 booster seat, 1 toy wagon, and 1 Elmo DVD for a grand total of $154.50.
I spent $133 at my third and most recent sale and came home with a stacking train, 2 Sesame Street DVDs, 2 books, 3 backpack leashes, 5 sets of Disney play shoes, 4 pajama sets, 6 dresses, 12 girls’ shirts, 7 boys’ shirts, 7 skirts, 2 jeggings, 2 Melissa & Doug sets, 1 alphabet puzzle & 1 wooden bead-lacing set.
I’ve only had to fill in here and there with new, store-bought items – mostly bottoms, as those wear more quickly for little ones – but I’ve essentially provided three entire wardrobes with inexpensive, gently used items for a fairly small amount of money.
Consignment sales can seem intimidating, but I promise they aren’t that scary. Sure, there are a lot of clothes to sort through, and sure, there can be cutthroat shoppers, but the payoff is so worth it.
How do I do it?
Know the rules. Some sales allow you to only shop with bags. Some allow you to use carts. Some will allow you to bring a stroller. Can you shop early for a small fee? Do you need cash, or will they accept credit cards? Find the sale’s Web site and read the fine print. I prefer to shop with giant reusable shopping bags, but some like to drag a laundry basket by a belt fashioned as a leash/handle.
Make a list, then make lists within your list. Knowing what you want will also help you decide what you’ll need to shop with – how many bags/baskets, etc. Prioritize what you need the most, and locate that section of the sale floor first. You’ll probably want clothing, so figure out what sizes you’ll look for and what types of clothing you want – play clothes, special-occasion clothing, swimwear, specifically elastic-waistband-only bottoms, types of sleeves, etc. I decide sizing based on how quickly my kids have progressed over the last two seasons. I know the clothing details I like best, and I’ve even learned the brands I prefer well enough to quickly recognize them while flipping through clothes on the racks. If you are shopping for toys, browse in your local toy store and choose specific items or brands for which to find at the consignment sale. The same goes for DVDs and books. Get familiar with your desired items, and able to spot what you want as quickly as possible.
While shopping, grab first, ask questions later. Does this shirt have a stain? Does this toy have all its parts? Can I find the same item at a cheaper price? If you find something you potentially want, stash it in your bag or basket and move on. The time it takes for you to inspect or decide could be the time it takes for another shopper to grab one of your coveted items. When your bags/baskets are full or you just need a break, find an out-of-the way spot (or a sorting table, if the sale provides those), and sort through what you’ve found. Inspect for stains and holes, repeat items, best prices and missing pieces then, and return unwanted items to the proper location. Every sale I’ve been to has workers who retrieve such items, so you only need to find a return station. I usually shop and sort and shop and sort and shop a few times before I’m satisfied with what I’ve found.
Focus and move quickly, but give yourself time to be thorough. For me, this means several trips through the different sections I shop. I start with a ton of things and then work backward by return, replacing and filling in where needed. I might grab too many shirts and not enough bottoms after my first round through the racks, or I’ll focus too much on day clothing and leave out pajamas. Giving myself a few hours to be thorough is entirely necessary.
Dress comfortably, and make sure you eat before you go. Hit the bathroom before shopping, and prepare for a shopping marathon. If you’re shopping for more than one child or are at a particularly large or well-stocked sale, you could be in the trenches for three or more hours, and you don’t want to give up your items should you need to leave the sale floor – the only instance I’ve found shopping with a friend is helpful (otherwise, you more or less split up or get separated in the shuffle – consignment shopping isn’t a leisurely trip to the mall with your girlfriend).
Children blast through clothing and toys so quickly that I’ve lost interest in buying much new at a store. It’s in the same “used” condition you’ll find at consignment sales within a short period of use at home, anyhow, so why not save money and skip that breaking-in period? It takes some effort, but the payoff is totally worth the time and energy you’ll spend shopping.
A meme on Instagram turned out too fun to not have on my blog. I present five things about Toby, Eleanor and Callista (all iPhone 4s photos using Phonto for the text overlay):
Right around age 2 is when I started letting Toby, Eleanor and Callista have more freedom with my iPad. Before then there were too many arguments and tug-of-war incidents, too much confusion over what the home button did and generally not enough patience – both with apps and each other.
Now, we’ve established a decent concept of sharing and taking turns, and they’re really enjoying their play time with the shiny, happy technology.
Toca Boca is our favorite developer. My favorite of our Toca games is Toca Monsters, in which you prepare food to feed your hideous monster friend. ETC’s favorite Toca apps are the hair salon apps – they love shampooing and washing the characters’ hair and adding accessories.
My two favorite educational apps I’ve downloaded are Make It Pop, which teaches shapes, counting, letters, colors and size descriptions (tiny, medium, big, etc.). You pop popcorn, balloons, bubbles and make fireworks explode. The other is Endless ABC, which has you match letters while teaching each sound. Older children learn to spell, read and define words you won’t find on your average spelling list – belch, rainstorm and lick were three we did tonight.
The PBS app is nice with its oodles of favorite-show episodes, and you readers are familiar with the Yo Gabba Gabba obsession in my house. Peekaboo Barn was the first app they ever learned and loved, and they still love playing it.
Do you like using technology with children? What apps do you recommend?
I started my Goodreads account years ago before babies were even part of the conversation let alone the equation. At the time, I created two separate accounts to keep my books separate from the children’s books in my collection (Why come you have children’s books with no children? you ask. Because my mom is a retired kindergarten teacher and passed down her classroom library. I’m a book nerd and knew we’d have children someday, so I hungrily took them and lovingly cataloged and stored them for future use.).
The time has come to join the two and keep track of the books Toby, Eleanor and Callista read as well, so my two accounts are now one.
For now, What Jenny Reads is a record of the books I’ve read and rated. If I’ve read it in the last few years, I also include spoiler-free reviews. I reviewed books on my blog for two years, and I may start again soon, but in the mean time, you can check out my super short reviews on Goodreads. I also keep track of up-and-coming reads using my To Read shelf.
My Children’s Books shelf is a record of all the children’s books we own. I haven’t rated or reviewed any of those yet, but I’m not sure I’m going to any time soon. What I think of those books doesn’t matter as much as what my kiddos think, and toddlers tend to change their opinions as often as we change their diapers.
So there you have it. A friendly heads up for those interested in what books cross through our house and which ones are here to stay. The button in my blog’s sidebar links directly to What Jenny Reads shelf on my account. From there, you can navigate to the Children’s Books shelf if that’s what you’re looking for. Give a holler if you’d be interested in seeing more bookish things cross your screen here, and I’ll work on getting back to more regular book talk.
Till then, happy reading!
